THE “C” TRIPLET OF A SUCCESSFUL LIFE

There are certain traits and characteristic dispositions that are necessary for a life of continuous success, fulfillment, and resounding testimonies. These principles are universal just like the natural laws. If you apply them to your life as an individual, entity, corporation, or institution, you will yield the same result irrespective of your field of endeavor.  If you study circumspectly the lives of distinguishedly successful people, you will notice these unifying traits. Contrarily, lack of the application of these principles is also a unifying trait that poor and unsuccessful people have. Mind you, you can only achieve phenomenal results by applying these three Cs simultaneously. That is, if you apply two and ignore one, it will either yield a grand style failure, or an unsustainable result which will translate into a depressive failure. Therefore, follow closely, study and meditate carefully, and apply them religiously.

Be informed that this is a freshly conceived idea and no prior targeted research has been done in relations to this. It is based on my personal experiences of success and failure in life and critical observation of the reasons behind them.

  1. CONFIDENCE – this is the first and seemingly most important C of the triplet. It entails your ability and boldness to communicate or sell your idea or product to your potential customer. Whatever idea you want to share with the people, even if it is nonsense (which I don’t advise you sell), let it be a ‘beautiful nonsense”. Things to consider under Confidence include packaging, language, body movement, facial expression, enthusiasm, passion, etc. You have to show people that you know and that you are passionate about it. Let them ‘feel you’. Let them want to hear you again. This is not an easy task but comes with determination and practice. Keep training yourself in order to have an in-depth knowledge and understanding of the product or service you want to offer, and rehearsing it; in front of the mirror in your closet, to your friends or immediate family members, as your sample audience. Confidence brings trust. When you are confident in what you are doing or saying, people will tend to believe you because it shows that you are knowledgeable about the information or idea you are sharing with them. Also, part of being confidence is being ready to give an answer to anyone who questions you base on the material.
  2. CAREFULNESS – being careful is beyond crossing the t’s and dotting the i’s. It involves planning. For proper planning, you need to know your target audience: their expectations of you, likes & dislikes, spending habits (spending does not necessarily have to be money, it can be their time, resources: what do they love watching or listening to during their lunch break or leisure hour?). Take calculated risks, do a cost-benefit analysis of proposed investments/contracts, etc. (count the cost of your intended action even if it is a faith-based decision (take a look at this Luke 14:28). Don’t just get yourself involved in unplanned, frivolous and unprofitable risk because you hear some notable quotes that ‘not taking risks is the greatest risk in life’. If you are going into business or investment, make sure you are doing something that you are at least sure of getting back your principal in the worst case scenario.
  3. CONSISTENCY – be regular, steady and continuously improving in everything you do. If you want to be successful in every aspect of your life either socially, professionally, educationally, etc. make sure you do consistently. Let your audience know that at a certain time in the year, month or week you are going to post or do something, whatever it is that you are doing. Whether following up on newcomers/friends, updating your Facebook, uploading pictures to your Instagram page, writing blogs on your website, writing articles, etc. Be relatively predictable to your customers, followers or audience. It is not everyone that likes surprises. And also, people don’t want to be coming around frequently just to see that you haven’t posted anything new. Its waste of time and diminishes your reliability. If its prayer, set out a specific time in the day when you will be praying. The more consistent you get, the better you will be at doing it. You can set alarms or reminders to keep you on track. After a while, it will naturally flow because your body system would have fully adjusted to it. This also applies to someone trying to develop a saving habit. I strongly advise that you start small. You may want to start saving 5% of your income (I’m using the word income here loosely to include gifts, credits, salaries, anything money you receive) irrespective of how small it may seem.

CONCLUSION In everything you do, be confident, careful and consistent, and you will achieve great fulfillment. It may not come easy but you will surely breakthrough.

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THE MAKING A VIRTUOUS COUPLE – THE MAN

What do you see or understand when you read Proverbs 31?

Is it about the qualities and characteristics of a virtuous woman?

Is it all about how to recognize “wife-materials”?

If those are your preoccupations and key ideas of Proverbs 31, then you either did not study the chapter holistically or like most of us (I used to believe so until today), you study it close-mindedly. I have always believed that Proverbs 31 is the chapter to study as a man look for a “wife material” or that is good for a woman that wants to live an honorable life. I never knew that it was a very loaded scripture for both alike. The underlining problem is that we have historically focused on the last 22 verses and completely ignore the first 9 key verses. Funny enough, the book is an embodiment of some pieces of advice, prophesies and instructions, from a loving mother to a cherished son. So in this write-up, I will explore the first 9 verses that directly speak to and address the recipient of the prophesy, King Lemuel.

Why Are The First 9 Verses Important?

These are very important to the man because it gives him a sense of direction on how to live an honorable life. Someone once said that ‘you attract the equivalent of your most dominant thoughts’. Someone also says that ‘you attract who you are’. This means that if you as a man wants a virtuous woman, you need to be a virtuous man. This I believe is one of the reasons why she (King Lemuel’s mom) spent the first 9 verses addressing him.

THE ADVICE

First Advice: “Do Not Give Your Strength To Women” – this is a very significant piece of advice. She is advising him against promiscuity. From this, we learn that as a man, you lose your strength by moving from one girl or lady to another. There is a loss of virility in every act of promiscuity. You are killing yourself feeling that you are ‘enjoying’. That is a grossly irresponsible and dishonorable lifestyle.

Second Advice: “Nor Your Ways To That Which Destroy Kings” – there are numerous things that can destroy or that have destroyed great kings. One of them is polygamy. Let us use King Solomon as the case note here. He is said to be “beloved of God” (Nehemiah 13:26), and God Himself described as the “wisest man ever” (1 Kings 3:12, 4:30). but despite his unmatched wisdom, honor, power, and influence, was destroyed by polygamy and being unequally yoked with unbelievers (Deuteronomy 17:17, Nehemiah 13:26-27, 2 Corinthians 6:14, 1 Kings 11:1-13).

Third Advice: “It Is Not For Kings To Drink Wine, Nor Princes Strong Drink” (verse4) – alcohol is strictly forbidden for people in positions of authority. And as you know, we are all in positions of authority but in different capacities. While some have a wider influence, some have much smaller influence or jurisdiction. For example, an elder sibling is responsible for his/her younger ones (small), a parent for the family (large), a king for his kingdom (larger), CEO for his company and employees, President/Prime Minister for the country (much larger jurisdiction). Although it seems that the parent’s or elder sibling’s action is of lesser influence but in reality, it is one of the most significant roles. This is because the family is the backbone of the society and the most important agent of socialization. She (Lemuel’s mom) prohibits him from alcoholism because alcohol can lead to forgetfulness of the law, misguided actions and perversion of justice for the afflicted. Also, wine is for “him who is ready to perish”(v6). According to a commentary, alcohol or wine is given to condemned criminals to be crucified in order to lessen the pain of their suffering. This is why it was offered to Jesus Christ while on the cross (Matthew 27:34 http://biblehub.com/commentaries/proverbs/31-6.htm) which He rejected. Alcohol to them is like an anesthesia. Remember the story of Lot and his daughters (Genesis 19:33). Alcohol enslaves the heart (Hosea 4:11).

Fourth Advice: “Open Your Mouth For The Speechless” (verse8) – for you to be an honorary or virtuous man, you need to be the voice of the voiceless. Stand up, speak out and defend those who cannot speak for themselves. There are numerous people suffering all over the world not because they have done something wrong but because they could not speak for or defend themselves. Be the ‘eye to the blind and leg to the lame’. Be their advocate (Psalms 82, Job 29:15).

Fifth Advice: “Judge Righteously, And Plead The Cause Of The Poor And Needy” (verse9) – judge fairly without partiality. Give the right judgment to people irrespective of their status, background or age. Do not ‘respect the person of the poor, nor honor the person of the mighty: but in righteousness shall you judge your neighbors (Leviticus 19:15, Deuteronomy 1:16). Remember God is ‘no respecter of persons’ and He has made us in His own image and likeness. We are charged to be like God in all ramification.

Application of these five pieces of advice in your daily life makes you a virtuous and honorable man and qualifies you to proceed to the next 18 verses in search for the virtuous woman. The conclusion of this write-up is a charge or message to the future me or the man who has found his virtuous wife. Let you heart trust her. Honor and praise her. Teach your children to rise up and call her blessed. Give her the fruit of her hands and let her own works praise her in the gates (do not take glory for her work) (v28-31).

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